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Father for the 1st time

I’ve never held a baby before and am terrified

How a father is with a baby is dissimilar to how a mother is and this distinction is important for a baby. You will hold your baby differently and speak to her differently and even change her nappy differently. She will enjoy and appreciate this difference. It is all part of your unique relationship together and it is essential for her development.

I’ve never held a baby before and am terrifiedI’ve never held a baby before and am terrified about being left alone with my baby for the first time. Please help!

 

 All parents need to begin with where they are. Caring for your baby will become the most natural thing in the world, and I am here to help.

 

Research shows that fathers are equally as good as mothers at caring for children. However, a parent’s degree of confidence has a significant time quotient inherent in it. During the early time mothers may be breastfeeding and doing more direct caretaking of a baby. Fathers are often involved in other household ‘duties’ as well as possibly returning to work. Because of this, fathers may take a bit longer to develop confidence; and with patience it will come.

 

How a father is with a baby is dissimilar to how a mother is and this distinction is important for a baby. You will hold your baby differently and speak to her differently and even change her nappy differently. She will enjoy and appreciate this difference. It is all part of your unique relationship together and it is essential for her development.

 

Can you recall a time when you held a dozen long-stem roses? You probably didn’t grip them but rather cradled them carefully in your arm. We could make a comparison between holding long-stem roses and holding a baby. Although your baby doesn’t have any sharp bits she can seem as delicate. In actual fact she is quite resilient. Your baby will relax into you and trust your embrace.

 

Dad, you are going to do a great job. Your baby is completely safe with you. And, oh yes, remember the long-stem roses for that special mother in your life. Red is good.

 

 Patrick Houser is a parent counsellor and the co-founder of “Fathers-To-Be” which helps expectant and current fathers through the challenges of being a dad. If you would like to talk to Patrick go to  Childalert experts in the Community section. 

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