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Resentment towards my child for loss of career

How do I stop feeling resentment towards my child?

When we become mothers we often feel emotions that we hardly ever experienced before having a baby or if we did they are now much stronger.

 

When we become mothers we often feel emotions that we hardly ever experienced before having a baby or if we did they are now much stronger. 

 

Resentment is a common emotion felt by many mothers and is often related to what we are thinking about/focussing on when we are feeling resentful.  If you are feeling resentful about the affect having a child has had on your career/business, you may be focussing on what you are missing out on or have lost.  This may be a loss of freedom, career opportunities or even the affect on your relationship.

 

The way to deal with this is to turn your focus to what you have gained.  Some examples of what you may have gained might be …

  • A reason to work fewer hours/days and then have the freedom to do what you would like on your days off.
  • Opportunities may present themselves e.g. changing the focus of your business/career.
  • A renewed focus/reason for making your business work or enjoying your job.
  • The opportunity to make new friends

 

How else has having a baby been beneficial to you? Make a list of all the positive and happy feelings having a baby has brought you and read it back to yourself whenever you may be feeling negative.

 

If you are finding that you are still feeling resentment and wish to talk to someone about it please feel free to contact me directly from the comfort of your home phone via Greatvine.com. If you are really concerned by these feelings, you may wish to speak to a counsellor, again visit Greatvine.com for trusted and confidential advice in this area. Go to Childalert's community under experts to find out how to call Nina.

 

 

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