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I can't leave the room

My daughter won’t let me leave the room to go anywhere – How can I help her feel more confident?

Children often feel completely safe in new situations when you are there. But the distress when you are out of sight is a normal reaction. She feels unable to cope on her own and is also unsure where you are or when you are coming back. She also knows that becoming upset brings you back again and currently that is the only way she has to put things right.

 

Children often feel completely safe in new situations when you are there. But the distress when you are out of sight is a normal reaction. She feels unable to cope on her own and is also unsure where you are or when you are coming back. She also knows that becoming upset brings you back again and currently that is the only way she has to put things right.

 

Most children gradually get used to familiar situations and people so that they start to explore a little on their own and may take their eyes off you briefly. Build up her confidence slowly by keeping to routines with familiar places and people. Encourage her to leave your side to explore but stay where she can see you. Gradually she will spend more time playing and exploring.

 

If you have to leave her in child care, talk to your child care provider about how to help her cope with you leaving. They may suggest you leave her for a short time for a few visits while she gets to know her new environment. Once she is more familiar with the place and the people she will begin to feel safer even though you are not there.

 

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